More than a river in Egypt...

This reminds me of all the time I spent in therapy, with my ex-therapist's optimism that one day I would get to the bottom of things and leave the AN behind. Yet I remained ill.

I don't know which one of us was more in denial that this therapeutic approach just wasn't working. Even the best of guesses at why I was so afraid of eating couldn't remove the roadblock that stood between my fork and my mouth.

It's quite common in the ED world, the dogged belief that if you just figure out what's causing your disorder, you'll get better. And time passes, and passes and passes. Some people eventually get better, yes. But some don't.

We really need to ask ourselves: is this really the best way to treat eating disorders, or are we just kidding ourselves?

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cbtish said...

It's quite common in the therapy world, the dogged belief that if you just keep going round in circles one day you'll figure out what's causing the disorder. The therapists aren't kidding themselves, though, they're making money.

The trick is to jump out when you see the same scenery going past for a second time, but it's easier said than done.

If you have a friend who says, "My therapist is great, I've been with him for seventeen years" and another who says "I didn't really need therapy, I only had six sessions" and you choose to see the one who's "great", you're set to see the same scenery many times.

Carrie Arnold said...

I don't think most therapists are "in it" to make money. I really don't. They really, truly believe that this is the way out, and for a long time, there wasn't much better.

The problem is that there is now. I'm a big fan of CBT/DBT, or at least some sort of "path."

But your last paragraph reminds me of a lot of reviews I hear of treatment centers: "Place X was great! I was there three times!" Honey, treatment ain't camp. If it was so good, once should be enough.

Kim said...

I've been through a few therapists who really, really thought I would get better once I "figured it out." Years passed. Nothing. When I started up with my current therapist, I told her, "Look, if I'm at the same place a year from now, I can't see you anymore." I think therapists need to tell their clients that, freely. It's nothing personal...but progress is progress...

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