Wait a minute, you say. I've been reading this blog for over a year and she hasn't written about this yet?
Well, I do mean to talk about this, but my main rule is this: find what works for YOU.
If staring at pictures of Brad Pitt help you fight your eating disorder, stare away. Personally, I prefer George Clooney and the guy who plays "House," but whatever floats your boat. Find yoga relaxes you? Get in touch with your inner yogi. Think that hot tea helps with digestion? Bottoms up!
Most people who have recovered have ultimately cobbled together a little pupu platter of different approaches: DBT with horses and some painting; inpatient, dying your hair purple, and lots of peanut butter; adopting a puppy, moving to Nepal, and learning the banjo.
Most people I know who have recovered, however, have all done the following:
- Stopped ALL eating disordered behaviors- no restricting, binge eating, purging, or over exercise. Maintaining a weight that is appropriate for their DNA. Period. Recovery cannot happen without this.
- Learned how to deal with the aspects of their personalities that made them prone to developing an eating disorder- anxiety, depression, impulsivity, addiction, whatever.
- Made peace with the past. Whether this is with some creep who was mean to you in elementary school, a diet obsessed friend/parent/sibling, or the very fact that you HAD an eating disorder, ultimately this needs to happen. Anger can and will linger- it's the process of making peace that is ultimately healing.
- Developed a healthy fear of the eating disorder. Lightening can strike twice. So can the lottery. Why not an eating disorder?
George Clooney, come to mama!