tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post6006021576971063755..comments2024-03-23T08:25:22.526-04:00Comments on ED Bites: Tip Day: How to get back on trackCarrie Arnoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-65348491902558287172014-07-06T10:58:26.816-04:002014-07-06T10:58:26.816-04:00You wrote these words three and a half years ago. ...You wrote these words three and a half years ago. I am so glad I came across them today. Thank you. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17232368066114872305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-52146490643705594212011-01-15T01:42:02.210-05:002011-01-15T01:42:02.210-05:00Love the tips, especially #1. I always like the ti...Love the tips, especially #1. I always like the tip I've heard Thom Routledge say, "When can you start over?" Answer: "Right now". You don't have to wait till tomorrow or the next week, but as you put it "just do the next right thing."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-91240042827288079312011-01-10T00:30:54.742-05:002011-01-10T00:30:54.742-05:00Missy,
I totally laughed when I read your comment...Missy,<br /><br />I totally laughed when I read your comment. Why? I just made myself a nice, warm mug of green tea to lull myself to sleep. ;)Carrie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-38067865781580962172011-01-09T23:37:21.585-05:002011-01-09T23:37:21.585-05:00Do you know I savor your blog and you mean so much...Do you know I savor your blog and you mean so much to me? You do now. <br />Thank you and thank yourself. This post? Fresh from the mouth of one who get's it and makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE. Cause it ain't about drinking green tea and taking a bath..lol. <br /><br />Thank you. <---Can I say that enough?Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12394509972095129618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-35688544292533541202011-01-08T12:16:59.455-05:002011-01-08T12:16:59.455-05:00this really helped me, thanks so much! Such great...this really helped me, thanks so much! Such great advice :)<br /><br />Have a fantastic day!<br /><br />ScottAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-27889858844462531092011-01-07T17:45:43.508-05:002011-01-07T17:45:43.508-05:00This is very important to remember, whether with E...This is very important to remember, whether with ED or some other ill-fated coping mechanism. I couldn't have put it any better myself.erinirehttp://www.erinire.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-81662246952472573872011-01-07T17:31:39.662-05:002011-01-07T17:31:39.662-05:00Thanks for this.Thanks for this.unbeautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04302004966927334786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-32814852158268487862011-01-07T14:38:58.588-05:002011-01-07T14:38:58.588-05:00i needed this. thank youi needed this. thank youColleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02353480285196706052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-64039093161908754502011-01-07T14:31:42.195-05:002011-01-07T14:31:42.195-05:00GREAT tips, Carrie. #1 is fantastic, and had never...GREAT tips, Carrie. #1 is fantastic, and had never crossed my mind- do the next right thing. What an incredible, not black-and-white thing to say- a slip-up doesn't mean "I just failed so wtf, who even cares now"- instead it can be fixed in the next correct step. That is HUGE! And so simple, like balancing an equation. Why crumple the paper if you added 13 when you shouldn't have? Just subtract the 13, and continue. Beautiful! I can't get over it. Thank you!<br /><br />I'd also add a preemptive measure: Set up a support/accountability system while you're healthy. You've got your blog- if you isolated and stopped upkeep on it, all kinds of people would wonder what was going on with you- or your other option would be to keep the blog up but under false pretenses, which would be uncomfortable for you, I'm sure. So your blog keeps you accountable. I'm not brave enough to go public with my disorder and my recovery, but I set up a group email system where I send out regular recovery updates to a group of my closest, trustworthy friends and family members- it's incredible for my accountability, because if I stop updating, inevitably one of the people on my list will shoot me an email or a phone call and ask what's up and why they haven't heard anything in a while. I find that when in the dark of disordered thinking, I don't think to reach out- but having people in the know who will reach out to me when I'm isolating is a great way to stay accountable- because when presented with the options of either ignoring them (and possibly hurting their feelings) or lying in response to them (and feeling like a dirtbag), I find that I'd rather swallow my pride and admit I'm struggling. The truth of that then gives me impetus to get back on track.hmnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-39114013020376683232011-01-07T03:52:59.779-05:002011-01-07T03:52:59.779-05:00Goodness yes Carrie, you are a vital part of my re...Goodness yes Carrie, you are a vital part of my relapse prevention! And this post is another great piece of that puzzle I'm slowly constructing.<br /><br />I too tend to isolate when I'm feeling 'low' (hello, nice euphamism), and I'm terrible at telling people anything about my situation - so if I need to reach out I aim for friends with lots of problems of their own. I take them out for a coffe, and just let them do all the talking :)<br /><br />Gets me out of the house (and out of my head), and helps a friend - which is nice for my self-esteem too.Allynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-65360634496944754792011-01-07T00:41:02.845-05:002011-01-07T00:41:02.845-05:00Hayley,
I am honored to be a part of your support...Hayley,<br /><br />I am honored to be a part of your support system. I'm heading to bed with a smile on my face.<br /><br />Thanks!Carrie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-89907585226476908382011-01-07T00:30:34.095-05:002011-01-07T00:30:34.095-05:00Thank you so much for this post!
I personally tend...Thank you so much for this post!<br />I personally tend to be WAY too hard on myself after a slipup. What you said about forgiving yourself and moving on is definitely very important in recovery. Thanks for the reminder. You're a great support system for me whether you know it or not!<br /><3 HaleyHaleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17728102924183771887noreply@blogger.com