tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post4272648161480934346..comments2024-03-23T08:25:22.526-04:00Comments on ED Bites: Do my jeans make me look green?Carrie Arnoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-46918425083630359492009-09-13T23:07:01.661-04:002009-09-13T23:07:01.661-04:00In the book "Life Without Ed," (which I ...In the book "Life Without Ed," (which I would highly recommend to EVERYONE), the author describes a time when she was fighting the proverbial "monster in the mirror." She went into her friend's house one day, saw herself in the mirror, and was disgusted because she was so fat. The next day, she came into the same house, same mirror, and was shocked to find out that she must have lost 15 pounds! That person in the mirror looked lovely!<br /><br />I can definitely relate to this. I always saw myself as the fat kid throughout my childhood and young adult years. That is, until one recent day during my recovery, when my mother asked me whether anyone had ever actually called me FAT. I thought, and I thought, and I thought some more. No one but me had ever called me fat. I was the sole person who had that opinion.<br /><br />What relief.<br /><br />Also, one last thing: My therapist says that body image issues are, in some ways, blessings. When I look in the mirror and see a giant, scary, ugly person ... something is going on in my life to cause that. So that's my cue to find out what's going on -- and fix the problem. Job stress, relationship issues ... it's not about me actually being larger than I was yesterday. These feelings can be our personal barometers.<br /><br />Doesn't make it any easier at the time, but this has changed my perspective a bit ...K-pediahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08842726464974857152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-1965258451666407322009-09-03T21:25:02.283-04:002009-09-03T21:25:02.283-04:00"How do I see what's real if I don't ..."How do I see what's real if I don't even know what real looks like?"<br /><br />You create the real you want to see. You create a positive real. And you can. :)<br /><br />I think what you describe is a problem so many with eating disorders face. And you describe it so well. <br /><br />Comparisons are futile. The first step is to step comparing yourself to what you see. Simply see. Don't see "fatter than this" or "thinner than that." Just see. It's so difficult, but it's possible with the right training of the mind.<br /><br />You are recognizing the task that is at hand and that's the first step. <br /><br />By the way, green is my favorite color too. :)Arielle Bair, MSW, LSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05087215272280856919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-19261756915704545922009-09-03T16:06:58.166-04:002009-09-03T16:06:58.166-04:00My problem is not that I think I'm the heavies...My problem is not that I think I'm the heaviest person around but that I'm heavier than *I* feel I should be. Intellectually, I know that wearing my current size and having a BMI of 21.5 doesn't make me objectively "fat". And I can try to reassure myself that it's only been 7 months since I gave birth to my youngest child. <br /><br />That doesn't keep ED from taunting me with the knowledge that Heidi Klum modeled lingerie mere weeks after giving birth and that she was recently quoted as saying she's wearing non-maternity size 10 clothing during her current 4th pregnancy. The rational part of me knows it's ridiculous to hold myself to the same standard but try telling that to ED. <br /><br />Thank God I have my kids because wanting to be healthy for their sake is what keeps me from giving in to ED's temptations...Crimson Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03254830856234479999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-81498469177302119302009-09-03T12:51:19.537-04:002009-09-03T12:51:19.537-04:00If you find that your perceptions are skewed, then...If you find that your perceptions are skewed, then find an objective criteria and stick with it- healthy BMI range, the weight range your nutritionist/physician have recommended, etc. <br />If you're still within that range, then dismiss any thoughts that you're too large or eating too much regardless of how "true" that "green vision" appears.Dandelionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06430536577106569335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-14515478030504289982009-09-03T11:10:09.652-04:002009-09-03T11:10:09.652-04:00Ummmmm... what happened? I let you find the stuff ...Ummmmm... what happened? I let you find the stuff that work's and then report back. I'm more of a follower type. I would it love it it you could find something that helps this. I'm still the biggest person in the room and it's not fair! I still eat the smallest portion, when someone cut's back, I'll cut back more. So the distortion is with body and with food. Heck work is brining in luch today, I ordered off the kiddie side of the menu. My RD is going to kill me.Eating With Othershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07885274679677042833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-15070501064990515042009-09-03T03:15:38.600-04:002009-09-03T03:15:38.600-04:00The weirdest thing to me is that I might (or might...The weirdest thing to me is that I might (or might not) have some distortions when I look at myself, but I know I have distortions with how I feel my clothes fit. I'll put pants on and I'll think, "Oh my gosh these are so tight. I'm getting fatter every day!" Two hours later I'll think, "Good, the pants are baggy. I was wrong earlier when I thought they were too tight." Two hours later I'm back to thinking they're too tight. Then all of the sudden I'll think they fit just right. My response to that is, "pants aren't allowed to fit just right. They're supposed to be too big!" In one day, my pants go from too tight to just right to too big and back again....now.is.nowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05102652111745735039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-71041996552765547782009-09-03T03:01:12.830-04:002009-09-03T03:01:12.830-04:00I understand this completely, and though I try not...I understand this completely, and though I try not to, I stand in front of the mirror, scrutinizing minuscule changes to my weight (real or not)...despite the fact that I am trying to gain weight. I think it was really hammered home to me close to my lowest weight, when I told a friend of mine that I wouldn't want to eat a cheeseburger because I might get fat. He replied: "X, if you ate 3 cheeseburgers a day you wouldn't be fat." This is perhaps not true, but...it really made me second guess my own perceptions. I can see when others are skinnier than me (I think) and when they are too skinny...but myself? Noooo.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com