tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post722638444550040846..comments2024-03-23T08:25:22.526-04:00Comments on ED Bites: Adventures in flexibilityCarrie Arnoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-85598375186286146992011-06-22T16:59:52.037-04:002011-06-22T16:59:52.037-04:00I'm the same way. I get accustomed to routine...I'm the same way. I get accustomed to routine and anything else is a disruption-including my husband. When he comes back from a work trip it can be so hard for me to re adjust to having him in my space-never mind that it's OUR house. I totally understand. It's all part of the isolation habit people with ED issues tend to get into.CeCehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01390627453974953641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-58032526341934466832011-04-03T13:44:06.896-04:002011-04-03T13:44:06.896-04:00I hate this part of an eating disorder--the part t...I hate this part of an eating disorder--the part that makes us dislike having our best friends around or being on a well-deserved vacation. I mean, really? It makes no logical sense!<br /><br />I hope you can enjoy your friend's presence. Weekends like this are what life is about.Sarah at Journeying With Himhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00823110479188213370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-33601749299629507272011-04-03T03:36:57.001-04:002011-04-03T03:36:57.001-04:00I could have written this post myself Carrie... I ...I could have written this post myself Carrie... I have HUGE difficulties with change, and that is why, throughout my life (long before AN) I have always adhered to rituals and routines. I also have a greater need for solitude than do most people. As a child I could never do 'sleep-overs'. To remove myself from my safe environment, rituals and routines, and to lose my 'alone time' made me very anxious. <br /><br />In fact, the primary reason why I developed (and stuck in) AN was because it comprised a series of rituals and routines (around eating and exercise) that felt safe. It also disengaged me from the world, and I was not coping with life at the time I started to restrict food and to over-exercise. Provided that I adhered to all these rituals I felt able to cope in the world.<br /><br />This is all so far removed from the assumption that AN is 'about' body image. Nope. I cannot speak for everybody, but for me AN was very much 'about' avoidance of change (and the associated anxiety) - and such change included seeing my weight change. <br /><br />Enjoy your weekend, and I'm glad your eating is going better!Cathy (UK)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-10619359871901834012011-04-02T23:30:32.067-04:002011-04-02T23:30:32.067-04:00Glad to hear you are getting back on the recovery ...Glad to hear you are getting back on the recovery wagon and have a friend visiting.<br /><br />Change is always tough even small things like when people are in our homes. This reminded me that I had recently invited an acquaintance/friend to stay at my house, so she would not have to drive back and forth to a a seminar we are going to in May. Then, I realized I really don't know her that well, and secretly hoped she would not take my offer and decide to stay in a hotel. She actually did decide on the latter, and I have to admit, it was a breath of relief.<br /><br />Still though, I think I've learned to be adjustable to things, this one was just one that freaked me out a bit. <br /><br />Keep working through it, you'll get there.Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-68470591401704305752011-04-02T23:02:19.610-04:002011-04-02T23:02:19.610-04:00Yay for eating well! Yay for visiting friends and ...Yay for eating well! Yay for visiting friends and social support!!!!! Yay for flexibility! :)<br /><br />You rock, Carrie. I'm so glad there are supportive people around you right now- I'm glad they are disrupting your routines which lets you know that you are far more valuable than the sum of your consistent habits and compulsions.<br /><br />It feels bittersweet to let go of the illusion of satisfying solace that we find in our rigid, predictable ed behaviors- and turn back, instead, to the loving arms of the unpredictable human beings around us for support.<br /><br />But it is the good choice- the healthy choice- the not lonely choice.<br /><br />Again- I am proud of you. Sending warmth, love, and prayers your way for some fun times with your friend.hmnoreply@blogger.com