tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post7039249560333764499..comments2024-03-23T08:25:22.526-04:00Comments on ED Bites: Cancer or fat: which would you rather have?Carrie Arnoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-30455379495149434782012-01-25T13:17:48.882-05:002012-01-25T13:17:48.882-05:00unfortunatley i would rather have cancer than be c...unfortunatley i would rather have cancer than be called fat ever again. Being overweight has been nothing but an ongoing embarrasement and excuse to hide. At least if it were cancer, there would be empathy and sympathy. I think being a cow is the worst feelingn in the world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-90990303213280942812009-02-11T12:07:00.000-05:002009-02-11T12:07:00.000-05:00I'm going through your blog--so this comment is a ...I'm going through your blog--so this comment is a bit late. :)<BR/><BR/>I've always been an obese person and I was always teased about it. I still get looks and muttered comments when I walk by people. I've had suicidal thoughts since at least age 10 or 11, still do. Struggling to stop self injuring after starting 5 years ago.<BR/> <BR/>When I sixteen or so(am now 21), I was sent to an endocrinologist b/c my gp thought I had a thyroid problem(no period, hair falling out,etc). The guy didn't do a single test. He said, "Exercise more. Eat less and better." We(mom and I) told him I ate a variety of foods and while I wasn't athletic, I certainly was no couch potato. He called us both liars and made us leave. It was humiliating.Melanie Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00488584860287052327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-57393239741708290272007-07-21T00:18:00.000-04:002007-07-21T00:18:00.000-04:00Willow,Your kittens are definitely cute. I have a...Willow,<BR/><BR/>Your kittens are definitely cute. I have a momma's love of her own kitty (not the smooshy faced one), however.<BR/><BR/>Sarah,<BR/><BR/>It's interesting what I remember of my childhood. It's almost fleeting images, impressions as much as memories. And those memories stick. And hurt.<BR/><BR/>Jeanne,<BR/><BR/>I know the stigma when we were younger...I can't imagine what it would be like today.Carrie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-27938070070444911552007-07-20T21:05:00.000-04:002007-07-20T21:05:00.000-04:00As someone who grew up being called "chubby" - mos...As someone who grew up being called "chubby" - most notably from her pediatrician! - even when she wasn't majorly overweight, I understand the stigma of being "fat." It's horrific - and worse, children are so susceptible to the comments, even if meant in a "healthful" way. Just look at <A HREF="http://hungryforhunger.blogspot.com/2007/07/see-hill-take-hill.html" REL="nofollow">mrs. h4h's mom</A>...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17032617457209218758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-76610377397393157172007-07-20T15:24:00.000-04:002007-07-20T15:24:00.000-04:00wow. I was trying to think of something wise to s...wow. I was trying to think of something wise to say here, I just -- wow. <BR/><BR/>My therapist keeps asking me about my childhood and a lot of it is just gone, you know? I have very few memories. Kids are so easily hurt and the effects can persist for so long. This is a really sad story.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11813023808982058233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-76936322142536956752007-07-20T13:56:00.000-04:002007-07-20T13:56:00.000-04:00Smooshy faced cat... cute, but I can one up that.....Smooshy faced cat... cute, but I can one up that... we have kittens! See my blog for pictures!<BR/><BR/>And, on the whole, I agree with your entry & the associated comments.Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743097774688510437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-57716191334168724112007-07-19T21:57:00.000-04:002007-07-19T21:57:00.000-04:00Toni,You're right on about fat prejudice, especial...Toni,<BR/><BR/>You're right on about fat prejudice, especially in TV and movies. I hate HATE how they show the same old clips of fat people waddling down the street and eating hot dogs. It's like every time they had an issue involving African Americans and they showed someone in prison.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad to see that in shows like "Grey's Anatomy" they have strong female characters who look like women. They have plenty that don't, but it's a good start.Carrie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-51527601030726563372007-07-19T21:55:00.000-04:002007-07-19T21:55:00.000-04:00Darwin,No, actually, it doesn't make me angry at a...Darwin,<BR/><BR/>No, actually, it doesn't make me angry at all.<BR/><BR/>The pressure to be "thin" and "healthy" was certainly one of the contributing environmental factors to my eating disorder. However, I do believe that EDs have a firm genetic and biological basis. Starving myself wasn't willpower- it was my brain freaking out and self-medicating.<BR/><BR/>My take on pro-ana is this: Anorexia is a very isolating disease. If a friend or loved one challenges Ed, they can't be a friend. Groups of "anas" won't challenge Ed and they do provide social support. Of sorts. And most of their propoganda is from mainstream dieting websites.<BR/><BR/>And you should be enraged about the prejudice out there. We all should. It's good- it means you're thinking.Carrie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-64408525391051920562007-07-19T16:41:00.000-04:002007-07-19T16:41:00.000-04:00Forgive me, if this is offensive, but I've always ...Forgive me, if this is offensive, but I've always thought that in some ways eating disorders are actually a quite rational response to the enormous pressure that children are under to be thin. Speaking as someone who's lost around 90 lbs through diet and exercise, it never fails to enrage me how much better I'm treated as a thinner person as opposed to when I weighed more. I'm glad that I never developed an eating disorder in the course of my weight-loss (I only lost weight for health reasons - my knees hurt, and I don't have the will-power necessary to starve myself), but I completely understand why those poor pro-ED souls in the "support" communities might (in a way) love their EDs: the social stigma of obesity is just so great and so pervasive.<BR/><BR/>It makes me so angry. Love your blog.Darwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09166523097869417295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-63136805138451492942007-07-19T15:59:00.000-04:002007-07-19T15:59:00.000-04:00It's sad isn't it? Being of a certain, arbitraril...It's sad isn't it? Being of a certain, arbitrarily determined size, which someone else deems "too large" is an open invitation for abuse, ridicule, and mistreatment of every sort. It's one of the last few completely acceptable (for most) forms of discrimination in this country. It happens every day on TV, in the movies, even on the nightly news, and very few bother to question it. But any single argument I've heard or read about fat being "bad" - just substitute "black" or "gay" and people would see it for what it really is right away - HATE.Toni Prekkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10443443291341724847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-53160306774705951242007-07-19T15:04:00.000-04:002007-07-19T15:04:00.000-04:00Well said! I recall visiting my aunt before cancer...Well said!<BR/><BR/> I recall visiting my aunt before cancer took her way and she said it was the worst diet she was ever on. She always felt too big being a tall statuesque woman with a booming voice. I always thought she was wonderful. [I think I inherited her mouth]maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05476646540007179475noreply@blogger.com