tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post6440280675236354522..comments2024-03-23T08:25:22.526-04:00Comments on ED Bites: That's just sadCarrie Arnoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-79084859937275803122007-08-07T02:56:00.000-04:002007-08-07T02:56:00.000-04:00My daughter is in exactly this same place. I fear...My daughter is in exactly this same place. I fear for her Ed wise as she is already showing tendencies that remind me far too much of myself in prepuberty.<BR/><BR/>It sucks... not much more I can say.<BR/><BR/>My best method thus far has been to reinforce to her that all bodies are different & her's is right now getting ready to do a lot of growing and changing and to be patient with it.<BR/><BR/>I did tell her today in the presence of my therapist that I think she is the coolest kid ever and that I feel so lucky to have her as my daughter.<BR/><BR/>It's a struggle, dealing with my shit and trying to figure out how to guide her, but I've been trying the honesty is the best policy method.Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743097774688510437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-62156162898778078292007-08-04T23:49:00.000-04:002007-08-04T23:49:00.000-04:00I wish she'd give her a good punch, too, but the c...I wish she'd give her a good punch, too, but the consequences of doing such a thing might outweigh the satisfaction received from it.<BR/><BR/>Please keep us updated on this. I fear for young girls and how easy it is to tear down a positive body image within them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-46382856243679398652007-08-04T16:10:00.000-04:002007-08-04T16:10:00.000-04:00this stuff really breaks my heart. in that i know ...this stuff really breaks my heart. <BR/><BR/>in that i know it happens and my intuition says that it may very well get worse. that one 'study' that made a correlation b/n one's weight and his/her friend's weight, is something that i heard discussed seemingly everywhere i went. and, with the publicity it has received, i think it may still arrise for a while. <BR/><BR/>and, beyond bullying, cyberbullying has been an issue since the advent of the internet. and cyberbullying is just if not more vicious and hurtful. it makes me scared to ever have a child because it seems anonymity has served as a catalyst for kids to reach new lows of cruelty. <BR/><BR/>ugh.<BR/><BR/>did you see the PSA for cyberbullying prevention? it breaks my heart to hear the cruelty.ms. emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18368009574739052471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-72746145319101376442007-08-03T19:02:00.000-04:002007-08-03T19:02:00.000-04:00wow carrie thank you for saying that about little ...wow carrie thank you for saying that about little c, he def has his moments but he is my heart and I love when others can pick up on that!!<BR/>Hugs to you!!!laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369659753450717383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-65349259375827167412007-08-03T15:45:00.000-04:002007-08-03T15:45:00.000-04:00What makes me also sad is to think how widespread ...What makes me also sad is to think how widespread this experience is. Puberty is simply Nature doing its job turning children into young adults but our culture has made the process a minefield.aufderheidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18436534424131765183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-60472389100870644692007-08-03T13:09:00.000-04:002007-08-03T13:09:00.000-04:00Lauren,I want to hold little C close too. He real...Lauren,<BR/><BR/>I want to hold little C close too. He really does look angelic, though I'm sure he has his moments!<BR/><BR/>Mary,<BR/><BR/>K doesn't know my ED history, and I almost hesitate to mention that because I'm sure she's aware of EDs, I don't want that to be quite so prominent in her head. I'm torn between telling her she's beautiful too much because I don't want her to base her self-worth on that. It's so freaking complicated. But I'm giving her mom some good books to read on fostering positive body image.<BR/><BR/>xoCarrieoxCarrie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-50602117914050705782007-08-03T13:05:00.000-04:002007-08-03T13:05:00.000-04:00I think that coming from you she might be able to ...I think that coming from you she might be able to hear that her friend is just plain wrong!<BR/> Do you think you could say something this simple, without going over her head? Both girls need to know that whatever way their body grows is perfectly fine. The 'bully' may not know this. <BR/> Growing up is oh so hard at times but when the right people, >CARRIE<, intervene, they can help change everything! Knowing that something bad was said is very good as something CAN be done.<BR/> I was a twig as I grew tall fast and guess what I got called ...flatty. Not anymore though! We never forget sharp remarks but we can overcome them.maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05476646540007179475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-55270901021293587612007-08-03T13:02:00.000-04:002007-08-03T13:02:00.000-04:00Kids can be so freaking mean!!! I hate that!!!!!!S...Kids can be so freaking mean!!! I hate that!!!!!!<BR/>Sadness-<BR/>This is why I want to hold my little man so close!<BR/>Have a good weekend sweetie!laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10369659753450717383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-76978216782019418922007-08-03T13:01:00.000-04:002007-08-03T13:01:00.000-04:00Jeanne,K's over at my neighbor's pool quite a bit ...Jeanne,<BR/><BR/>K's over at my neighbor's pool quite a bit and I'm over there regularly, too (they're my surrogate aunt and uncle because the rest of my family is so far away). She loves to do flips on the diving board, etc, so I tell her how good she is- because she really is. She does flips! Then again, I'm terrified of being upside down, so I could never EVER do that.<BR/><BR/>Sarah,<BR/><BR/>You're right about how early attention to your body, especially in a negative way, affects you so many years down the road. It's like you want to hide your physical self. There's evidence that early puberty is a risk factor in developing an ED.<BR/><BR/>::sigh::<BR/><BR/>xoCarrieoxCarrie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-50810129107023028142007-08-03T12:31:00.000-04:002007-08-03T12:31:00.000-04:00that is really sad. That just should not be allow...that is really sad. That just should not be allowed to happen. <BR/><BR/>I am just now starting to figure out how the early attention (and in some cases I would classify it as harrassment) from boys has affected me. There was a lot I wasn't ready to deal with and it's still playing out for me.<BR/><BR/>As always, a thought-provoking post. Thanks. Oh and the paws picture is AWESOME.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11813023808982058233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-62506620537077264362007-08-03T10:34:00.000-04:002007-08-03T10:34:00.000-04:00carrie,Can I have a punch, too???? Please????Oh, n...carrie,<BR/><BR/>Can I have a punch, too???? Please????<BR/><BR/>Oh, nelly... I hate that this happens - to any child!! Let alone the children we know and care about.<BR/><BR/>It's a no-win situation. <BR/><BR/>Except to have as many people as possible talk to K and let her know that she is beautiful - just as she is.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17032617457209218758noreply@blogger.com