tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post509081193608573246..comments2024-03-23T08:25:22.526-04:00Comments on ED Bites: When all else fails, blame the patientCarrie Arnoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-10324151289415379562008-11-08T21:34:00.000-05:002008-11-08T21:34:00.000-05:00I've been in recovery for 14 years and BELIEVE ME,...I've been in recovery for 14 years and <I>BELIEVE ME</I>, I want more than anything else to never have to deal with body image or eating issues ever again. I've got better things to do with my life than worry about food and weight but it's still a real challenge. I have made progress over the years, but there are times when I have setbacks (particularly when I'm post-partum). It's like a chronic disease to be managed rather than something that can be "cured".Crimson Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03254830856234479999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-88991644206931712322008-10-22T13:47:00.000-04:002008-10-22T13:47:00.000-04:00Ahhhh, the concept of "secondary gain" s...Ahhhh, the concept of "secondary gain" so often harped on in psychology...<BR/><BR/>"What are you getting out of staying sick? What benefits are there to you to not being well?"<BR/><BR/>And the stock ED answers, "fed" to you ad nauseum (and if you disagree, you're "in denial," of course): are you trying to avoid growing up? Does it give you an excuse when things don't go well in your life? Are you trying to get attention? Is making your parents worry the only way you know how to get your Mommy & Daddy to show they love you?<BR/><BR/>*groan*<BR/><BR/>Luckily my therapist isn't so into that sort of BS, but I spent FAR too long in an outpatient program, where I swear on my life that had one more inexperienced therapist who barely knew me but was sure that since I had an ED I MUST be the same person she read about in her had textbooks insisted I was avoiding independence (subconsciously, of course), I probably would have socked her.<BR/><BR/>Anyway...I thought this article was terrific, and it makes me ever more grateful for my persistent psychiatrist, who simply kept tweaking & changing my meds over and over again for nearly three years before we found something that even BEGAN to touch my depression. He never ONCE blamed me or told me I "wasn't trying." It's great to see a doctor acknowledge that sometimes the doc's fear of seeing her/his own impotence/fallibility distorts perception & results in undue blame and pathologizes people who are genuinely ill. Hopefully other docs will read it!Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07840033787641336933noreply@blogger.com