tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post4550156136128707387..comments2024-03-23T08:25:22.526-04:00Comments on ED Bites: New recovery gameCarrie Arnoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-30791079534656230192010-04-19T08:35:44.151-04:002010-04-19T08:35:44.151-04:00This is a very interesting post to me, as I strugg...This is a very interesting post to me, as I struggle with the same thing before buying my own house. Do I wait until I'm "recovered" or is it a case of "wherever you go, there you are?" Well, I sucked it up and bought my own house over a year ago, despite the fact that I still haven't recovered. My living situation wasn't ideal, in that although my mom is my biggest supporter, she is also one of my biggest triggers at times. <br /><br />Part of my apprehension is that I hate ANY debt and spend my money quite frugally (which is why spending $13,000 on treatment should have kicked my ass into gear). Part of it is that living alone allows me to live alone in my head, which is not good. <br /><br />Long story short, I love my house. The mortgage scares the crap out of me and I am constantly in fear that I will have to use the money for treatment again, but then there are days I use that to my advantage. I tell myself that I HAVE to pay the mortgage and need to recover on my own. It's cheaper to buy bags and bags of groceries and sit on my butt instead of literally running myself into the ground and going into debt for treatment that I've had before. <br /><br />I'm rambling, but my point is that both take a huge amount of responsibility in their own way. Although I'm getting by, taking responsibility of your health is more important that having a place of your own at this point. I struggle every day with balancing both and wonder why I don't place as much importance on an extra snack or day of rest as I do the next monthly payment. <br /><br />But for me, I struggled at home, as well, so having my own place (with no drama or whatever) is really a great thing. I need that peace, but need to take more responsibility for my eating, exercise and recovery. Good luck and thanks for the insight!Abbyhttp://www.abbyhasissues.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-74925318211958636332010-04-18T10:55:58.181-04:002010-04-18T10:55:58.181-04:00I think this is a great motivational goal for you....I think this is a great motivational goal for you. Looking at real estate is both a lot of fun and daunting at the same time. I do think you are doing it wise with thinking about financial stuff, what you want, etc. <br /><br />A lot of buying a house for me had to do with having 4 large dogs and not wanting to deal with stipulations in home owners associations, etc. There is certainly something special about having this type of of ownership which eventually pays off in the end. There is definitely a grounding aspect to it and realization that you need to keep your head in recovery, not just above water or below it.<br /><br />FYI, I still find myself looking at how houses are laid and such and whether it is a nice landscape, plot, etc. I think looking at real estate does that to you. LOL Also, you learn quite a bit about how the real estate industry works. There's so much involved-- a bit stressful at times but such a wonderful feeling at the end.Tiptoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17388368645986593755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-82343757810467089622010-04-17T20:22:21.152-04:002010-04-17T20:22:21.152-04:00My DH and I bought our first home at the end of De...My DH and I bought our first home at the end of December. Even though we knew on an intellectual level from all our relatives & friends how much of a money pit homeownership is, on an emotional level we were unprepared. <br /><br />Just yesterday we found out that we had a leaky toilet that drove our water bill from ~$103/mo to $1018. ~$700 of that was a surcharge for excess water use that we're disputing but still we're going to shell out quite a bit to replace the stupid toilet. <br /><br />Given the ups and downs of the freelance writing market, I would recommend being very conservative about the financial cushion you build up before purchasing your own place. The last thing someone in recovery from an ED needs is stressing out over how to pay for an unexpected repair bill.Crimson Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03254830856234479999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-48578887662458723032010-04-17T15:23:41.225-04:002010-04-17T15:23:41.225-04:00I am a huge fan of realtor.com and HGTV. I bought ...I am a huge fan of realtor.com and HGTV. I bought my condo in 2006 and felt very "grown up" about it. It has helped me in recovery to know I'm responsible to this place. Still, I'm hesitant to move on to a bigger home. The small condo is manageable; house with yard seems scary. So we'll stay here for a while. I think it's great that you're looking. Just considering the idea is the big first step. And I do think it's a step in recovery to want to take on something like home ownership. It does anchor you, for better or worse. I know I can't jeopardize my health because I have a home, a husband, cats who depend on me. I love the idea of looking for recovery inspirations. Traveling is a big one for me too!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12524913753671188764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-16106925795847075682010-04-17T05:35:03.699-04:002010-04-17T05:35:03.699-04:00Great post with some really good ideas. Having a m...Great post with some really good ideas. Having a motivation and a vision ahead of you is a great help in recovery and definitely strikes me of a good way of keeping at progress. Looking at what you want - and realising how you can't have it if you're dragged down by the eating disorder - is what you've got to keep holding onto.<br /><br />Responsibility is a huge aspect of recovery. Right now I'm trying to take responsibility for myself not just to prove to others that I can by (after years of ups and downs) but also to myself. If you get a sense that you are making your own destiny, grabbing the anorexia by the throat and starting to define yourself away from its influence then excellent.<br /><br />Keep on heading up those steps. Thanks as ever Carrie for another inspiring post.James Claytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02649874906360931246noreply@blogger.com