tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post2169779201172108311..comments2024-03-23T08:25:22.526-04:00Comments on ED Bites: Resisting temptation is easier for those who exaggerate threatsCarrie Arnoldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-80993035941147595692009-12-21T15:05:20.347-05:002009-12-21T15:05:20.347-05:00I find that when I'm in a more restrictive/anx...I find that when I'm in a more restrictive/anxious mode, I do overestimate the calories in, and portions of, just about everything. On the other hand, when in binge/bulimic mode (as I have been in the past), it's as much as I can do to eat intuitively and not pile on the pounds. When I "let myself go" that way I do underestimate cals, because I want the food so much that I try to tell myself it isn't as much as I think.<br /><br />Also, well, I never had a problem with dishes, but if it was something like checking a moderation queue for an online community, writing cards I'd promised to send, etc... I get a lot of anxiety about that sort of thing, and can't rest easily until it's done. At least lately. There have been times in my life when I've been able to be more moderate about important things, because I would trust myself to get them done, even if there was a little pause or delay here and there.<br /><br />Maybe it has to do with not trusting ourselves. I find that this is when my fear is the strongest -- when I don't trust my own instincts or impulses. It is then that I feel the need to put the control (the brakes) on and slow things down enough so that I can make sure I don't do something "wrong". Which is the perfectionistic, black-and-white attitude again.Bellahttp://www.twitter.com/pulchra_sanitasnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-65960217162819127832009-12-21T13:14:20.479-05:002009-12-21T13:14:20.479-05:00Abby,
I *love* the name of your blog- hilarious!Abby,<br /><br />I *love* the name of your blog- hilarious!Carrie Arnoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02569839838912988783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-60497714638213018192009-12-21T12:48:54.757-05:002009-12-21T12:48:54.757-05:00Wow. Kim told me to check this post out, as I just...Wow. Kim told me to check this post out, as I just wrote something similar (although not nearly as comprehensive or elegant) and it hits home on every single level--as do the corresponding comments. <br /><br />A lot to think about...Abbyhttp://www.abbyhasissues.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-33148511469272675272009-12-21T11:16:32.462-05:002009-12-21T11:16:32.462-05:00"Fit models": an oxymoron."Fit models": an oxymoron.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-28973102572382343192009-12-20T12:42:25.812-05:002009-12-20T12:42:25.812-05:00I can understand the "exaggerating a threat&q...I can understand the "exaggerating a threat" component.<br /><br />"Scary foods" (which encompass everything minus like the 10 foods I have weight restored with) hold no temptation to me because the threat of emotional turmoil after the fact, possible weight gain, etc. is so huge to me. Eating the food is simply not worth it.<br /><br />I was decorating Christmas cookies yesterday and was not tempted at all to eat them -- simply because the "threat" made the temptation seem insiginficat. Eventually -- after a few years of avoiding "pleasurable foods" such as cakes, cookies, etc. they don't seem like foods or temptations anymore simply because they are NOT options to be eaten -- similar to the fact that oen would not eat dog food or candles.<br /><br />Interesting post Carrie.<br /><br />(I obviously still have a lot to work on with variety in food :P)<br /><br />A:)A:)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-1108742323256878402009-12-20T12:21:10.584-05:002009-12-20T12:21:10.584-05:00This is interesting and I'm trying to think it...This is interesting and I'm trying to think it through... <br /><br />Asceticism was a big part of my anorexia nervosa (AN), and I often felt that I didn't deserve to eat. This feeling of being undeserved was closely associated with depression and low self worth. Yet, I didn't particularly enjoy eating and had many food phobias, so I didn't actually feel denied. The ascetic within me was not trying to override impulses that bring pleasure. <br /><br />Rather, the situation was that I somehow felt I deserved to be punished - i.e. that I should damage myself through starvation. This was because I hated myself -not my physical body per se but myself as a whole. I felt I was abnormal and 'wrong' and so I should annihilate myself. I liked myself more (or maybe hated myself less...) when I ate less. <br /><br />However, I also derived a huge (illusory) sense of control over my existence through living on only a small amount of food. I was terrified of deviating from a set eating plan - because that would somehow mean (in my mind) that everything was 'out of control'. Even so, I didn't over-estimate calorie intake as a sort of 'safeguard'. Rather my calculations had to be exact.Cathy (UK)http://www.youtube.com/user/misstiggykinsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-29499239940121622032009-12-20T10:33:48.741-05:002009-12-20T10:33:48.741-05:00With compulsive overeating temporarily in remissio...With compulsive overeating temporarily in remission, I had the exact opposite of this problem. I consistently underestimated the calories in foods. This was even when I was controlling my food intake.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-54438652528985333312009-12-20T09:22:39.403-05:002009-12-20T09:22:39.403-05:00Wow, this is all totally me. I've always said...Wow, this is all totally me. I've always said that the "real" things in life never scare me but what goes on in my head and that extra bite? Terrifying.Hannah Sieglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10302103649816751972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6561748834204284315.post-25990794838221666992009-12-20T04:53:15.982-05:002009-12-20T04:53:15.982-05:00Reading 'leaving the dishes until morning'...Reading 'leaving the dishes until morning' in association with pleasure was weird, because I can see that other people might see that as a guilty pleasure, but it would be more anxiety provoking than pleasureable for me. I wouldn't be able to relax knowing they were out there! I say the same thing to people who seem to associate anorexia with willpower. I wasn't able to restrict because I had incredible self control, it was because eating more than I had planned for the day seemed as impossible as putting a tarantula in my mouth (sorry for the spider mention!). So this research makes a lot of sense to me. It's not just easy to resist temptation in that sort of situation, it's just not a tempting thought/action in the first place.Katiehttp://themilkfreeway.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com